You’ve suffered a relationship break up, and now you’re wondering if it’s possible to get your ex back. This is a natural reaction and they call it suffering through a break up with good reason.

The answer to that question is yes far more often than you might think, but you need to approach things the right way to have any chance of getting back together.

Before you start the process of fixing a broken relationship, you need to ask yourself the all-important question:  Should I fix this relationship? After a break up, you will understandably be feeling lonely and lost.

This is not a good reason to try and get back with your ex, because these feelings can lead you to ignore the very real problems that lead to the relationship falling apart to begin with.

But if you look at the relationship and realize that your reasons for wanting to get back with your ex are genuine, then it’s time to take the right steps to mend the parts of the relationship that are broken.

Now don’t just go charging in doing whatever you can to get your ex back. You need to take a planned and measured approach. You wouldn’t run on a broken leg would you? Well, you need to take the same kind of care in healing after a relationship break up.

Step One:  Date Someone Else

I know this seems like weird advice when you’re trying to get your ex back, but this is a very useful step. The keyword here is date; this is not an invitation to start a full-fledged romance.

Dating other people serves two purposes. One is that it will show you whether or not you should be trying to get your ex back: if you find you’re not thinking about them and are thinking about your date, then this is a sign that you may be moving on.

The other reason is that it will give you some space to reflect upon your relationship and something to compare it to. This will give you the information you will need to do the next step.

Step Two:  Know what went wrong

The cliché is that people who don’t know their history are doomed to repeat it. This is very applicable to relationships having taken a turn for the worse. If you don’t know exactly what went wrong, you won’t be able to fix it and it’s bound to happen again. So it is very important that you figure out where things went wrong so that you can circumvent the issues which caused your relationship break up in the first place.

Step Three:  Use a Light Touch

It’s very important that you start slow and don’t rush things. Do not, under any circumstances, expect things to immediately revert to the good old days before the break up. You need to look at this as starting all over and let things progress at their own pace. Nothing will push your ex away faster than you trying to push them too far, too fast.

While this article will certainly start you on the road to winning them back after a relationship break up, you may still need more advice and instruction. If this is the case, don’t hesitate to look for the advice that will help you get back to the place where you both were happy.  I wish you all the best!