When a relationship ends, especially if you’re not the one who ended it, how to get over someone becomes very important. It’s not always easy to get over a person you’ve been with, though. If you’ve been with that person for a very long time it’s even harder. It might be pretty easy to get over a relationship that’s lasted 3 months. But if you’ve been with someone for 3 years, it’s hard to get over that person at all, let alone get over them quickly. Fortunately, there are some things you can do to speed up the process.
When you’re wondering how to get over someone, sit in a chair in your living room or bedroom, wherever there’s a very strong sense of the other person. Remove anything that reminds you of that person a great deal. This isn’t always easy to do, but every little bit helps. If you’ve bought a dog together, for instance, of course you won’t want to get rid of the dog. But anything your ex bought for you that’s on display like a knick-knack or something hanging on the wall would be a good thing to remove for a while.
If you have lots of things that will remind you of your ex, you’re probably wondering how to get over someone without making your rooms completely bare. But even if you picked out practically everything together, you don’t have to remove everything to make this work. Just choose items that have particularly strong memories.
Maybe you picked out the couch together, but it’s one of the throw pillows that you bought or the figurine on the end table he or she gave you as a gift that seems to make you feel sad when you look at it. Remove those items and store them for a while, just to make things easier on you.
If you’re having a really hard time and feel that you need something more to help, try focusing on the traits or qualities you would like to see in your ideal partner. Be positive and imagine what it will be like when you find someone that treats you better like you deserve to be treated. Being aware of what you don’t like or want in a relationship will help you to focus on and think about what it is you do want.
Another useful method of how to get over someone is to simply start dating again. Many people balk at this idea—they think they still love the ex and aren’t ready. You can do this even if you’re still in love with your ex. No one says you have to fall in love anytime soon. But dating or even going out with friends isn’t just how to get over someone, it’s how to keep from feeling sorry for yourself while you try.
If you have had any experience in getting over a relationship and would like to share, please leave a comment.
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mundo virtual
May 10, 2011 at 3:49 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Thank you for writing this blog! My boyfriend broke up with me three months ago and I find relief here!
Chicago Hardwood Flooring
May 10, 2011 at 12:48 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Very true going out on a date or even with friends will help to keep your mind off the breakup and maybe even help you to meet somebody new. Sometimes its hard to get the other person out of your head but you just have to do what will make you happy. It almost alway will work. Great Blog thanks for the information
Emily Park
June 6, 2011 at 9:01 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
My boyfriend has recently finished with me after a two year relationship. I am devestated and can’t imagine the rest of my life without him! I know i need to get over him but i don’t know how. I think that if i deleted him from my life it will be as if he no longer exists and then this will help me get over him!
Jennifer
December 13, 2014 at 1:01 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
My boyfriend broke up with me how can I get over him when there so many memmories we had together
Jennifer
December 13, 2014 at 1:08 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
everything reminds me of him even thought it was a long distance relationship but we both love each other I knw he loves me too but he got tired of my tempter for calling several times until he would answer or sending him negative messages saying you don’t answer because you are with someone else he got tired of my tempter he told me to move one that I told him I think he use me he does not like that he said don’t call me anymore father that I call him to appoligize and said I was wrong can you give me the last change I prove you that I will not call you unless if you do I promise to be patient and wait he said he is working hard and people won’t change he hang up on me but I’m in so much pain we were going to get marry it’s hurting me so bad he is 60 I am 28 what can I do so he can come back to me and for him to forgive me