My Boyfriend Broke Up with Me. Is It Possible to Get Him Back?

I was going out with my boyfriend for only one month (i know its a short amount of time) but i am seriously convinced that hes the one for me. i have had a lot of dating experience and know exactly what i am and am not looking for in a guy. he really is what i was looking for in every way. well we started dating pretty much right away after he ended things with his 3 year relationship. I knew that was probably not the best timing, but he was extremely happy with me and things were absolutely great. we pretty much spent every second of every day together either in person or at least texting and talking. last week we parted ways as i have to stay at my college for the summer and he will be at home (4 hours away from me) for the summer. once we separated, he started to have weird feelings about his ex girlfriend. He left as if he hadn’t really had closure with her and was talking to me very openly about it. I stepped away as the “girlfriend” role and started speaking to him as a friend who would help him with the situation as unbiased as possible. he was amazing at how i was handling it and was so happy that i was there to help him through everything. then 3 days later, he decided to end things with me so that he could figure out what he wanted. I know that its completely fair and he deserves the time to think things through. the more we texted about it though, the more it wasnt really about his ex girlfriend, it was more about not wanting to start a relationship with me so quickly after and that he needed time to figure himself out. i, again, completely agree with his decision of wanting to end things with me. the thing that bothers me, though, is that he keeps telling me not to wait for him and to just forget about him and move on. i told him that it is impossible for me to do that because i know that i ultimately want to be with him and that i’m not gonna pressure him for time to come to terms with what he wants, but that when he is ready, i will be there for him and would want to get back together. i told him that in the mean time i would be there as a friend for him. but he keeps just responding by flipping out telling me not to wait for him. i know that hes very indecisive and changes how he feels all the time, so is he just saying this stuff to get my off his mind for a little so he can think about the other stuff going on in his life? or is he really serious that he doesn’t want to get back with me, even once things are figured out. i asked him to call me so we could have a real conversation on the phone and so that i could apologize for making things hard on him and wanted to just let him know that i was there as a friend and that i just missed talking and texting like regular friends. but he stopped responding to my texts. all i do is stare at my phone waiting for him to answer and hes just not. i dont want to pester him and drive him away more, but i am just siting here in my room thinking about him all the time and everything reminds me of him. i am constantly shaking and feeling nauseas and not really knowing how to handle all my free time. in my free time i just cry all the time. all i want is to talk to him like normal again. i miss him so much and just ultimately want him back. he is so perfect for me and i know that i already treated him way better then his ex girlfriend who had cheated on him. he even said that he was unhappy with her for the last 8 months of their relationship. but besides that point, i guess i just need some encouraging words or some advice with how to cope. im sick of having this feeling in my stomach and staring at my phone waiting for him to answer.

Hi, I was with some one for 9 1/2 months. Last summer, we broke up. I still love him very much. We were actually talking about the next step. I was his first for everything. I did some horrible things, but he was patient with me and understanding. I’ve never had a guy like him. Eventually he stressed out….I think because of me…and a lot of hell broke loose. It’s been a year since we broke up and I am looking to get him back now. I have decided not to dwell on what happened anymore, and ever since I have been a happier person in some ways…but I still feel as though half of me is missing, ripped away, ever since we broke up. I really would like some help. Email me, I will give you the details and you can give me advice please! ilovezackaree@gmail.com. I really need him in my life. We are still friends thank God, but not the way we used to be. He knows somewhat how I feel, but from what I read on the article, I plan on using these tips. I have so much of his stuff still. I know I need to box it up, just need a box. I have sort of already written down a letter, but I never mailed it. I just folded it up and put it away, kind of like locking my feelings away. I miss him dearly. Please..help me..

My boyfriend dumped me for dumb reasons that we could of worked on and went back with ex he cheated on me with how do i win him back

My boyfriend, now ex, were together for almost 3 years.we’ve had our fair share of breakups and makeups,and typically, we get back together. But this time is different, so different..he wants no contact at all,we haven’t talked in a few days.. I wrote a 7 page letter, and I am now debating on sending it to be given to him. i need some advice, please !!

My boyfriend broke up with me about 3 months ago he started to act weird and distant. To this day he still tells me he loves me but doesn’t really say much when I bring up the fact that me and him aren’t together .. I don’t see him often but we do text each other regular not like how we use to text though to make matters worse he’s my best friends cousin .. I did everything that I wasn’t suppose to do which was beg and told him how much I still love him … Can someone help me .. Is there still hope if he tells me he loves me ? I could possible get him back? I just want him back 🙂

My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago and he started dating and i can’t get him off my mind i have dreams about him every night and its killing me we have so much fun together and now knowing that he has a girlfriend i don’t no what to do i want him back so bad. A bout three weeks ago we were fine there was nothing wrong but then one day he just started being complety rude and not saying very nice things. PLEASE help me i want him back so bad. I STILL LOVE YOU CALEB.!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

My boyfriend and I broke up three weeks ago. It wasn’t completely out of the blue. We’d had some discussions about how I wanted marriage and kids. He’d been married once already and had kids and wasn’t anxious to go through that again. I tried to break it off after that discussion but he’d talked me out of it. Fast forward a few weeks. He lives two hours away, so I drove up to visit. I’d been working a ton of OT lately so I treated both of us to an expensive room for the weekend. He’d just texted his ex wife telling her he was bringing the kids to the hotel the next day to swim, and we were soaking in the hot tub having couples time. We’d been in there for an hour, just talking about random life stuff, and he was saying he wanted to get out and get a bite. Then boom! He said he wasn’t happy with his life, and he had no feelings for me. He felt nothing for me, his parents, or his sister. Since he and his ex wife broke up bc he caught her cheating on him he just feels numb about everyone and everything. (This happened almost four years ago, btw). He said after dating me for seven months he felt he should feel some love for me, but he feels nothing at all. He said we had no future together and he was never going to give me what I wanted (marriage and kids). I went ballistic, particularly since I’d just dropped so much cash on the weekend and it was nonrefundable. Plus I’d always gone above and beyond to be a good girlfriend and support him in every way. He is a security guard who makes very little and has to pay child support out of that, so I would step up and pay for things, treat his kids, that sort of thing. Plus I’d lend him money when he was strapped for cash. So I felt I didn’t deserve for him to coldly tell me he doesn’t love me and wants to break up in the hot tub out of nowhere. Part of me still feels this isn’t real. He’s prone to fits of depression and massive mood swings, and this seems to have been one of them. The fact that he says that he feels nothing for anybody makes me certain it’s depression talking. But I have tried to move on with my life, as hard as it is. I haven’t had contact since the break up other than a few texts concerning the money he owes me. (He said he’d send payments, we’ll have to see if he actually does). I figure he needs to be without me for a while and see what it’s like. I still have hope. I’m willing to compromise on the marriage thing, it’s not that big of a deal, but I do want to have a baby and at the age of 38 time is starting to get short. He did say several times that he wanted to try for a son, since he has two little girls, so it’s not like he’s been totally against having more kids. I don’t know if he’s going to come back, I just know I need to take care of myself right now. It really helps to talk about it on these sites, and hear others who are going through the same thing, and know I’m not alone.

Hi, my boyfriend and had just broke up 2 days ago. I knew he loves me so much but i cant control my behaviour and i didn’t know why im always upset with him. I loved him too. He gave me so many chances for me to change and learn. But i failed i stopmed like a child the other night and walk away . And i emailed him like im accusing him for something that was a miscommunications and i was listening to my own wrong feelings and thoughts. Whilst he spent alots for my birthday to make me happy pn the 21 of oct. i ddnt know why i behave like that to him i kept promising to changed and not acting that way and i failed.When the following morning he read my Email and he was so mad and hurts and he emailed me were through and he is done . Even on txt . I was pleading , begging , sorry bcs i knew it was my faults he rejected all of those . And he told me find someone else who likes fightings and drama. I have asked for another last chance but he got mad. And when i said we loved each other , why u cant forgive me. He said im only harassing him, and he said all im doing is making him more angry, all my doing is telling him that hes done the right thing to get rid of drama.and the last he said stop. You’re making me more angry. What steps should i do now? It was my faults. But i wanted him to believe me this time that im determined to change. But i cant msg or email him at all cos i dont want to make things worst. But our pictures still on his Facebook and also our latest pics from my birthday , even my thank u msg on his wall still there. Tell me please is there any hopes for us to reconnect does he make a move? I cant tell my troubles to anyone cos i wasnt listening to them i act however i want. Please i need someone to talk and give a piece of advice . I have no mom to share with.. Thank you

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 months and the first time we een met we had a great connection and things were so great with us. in January he started getting sick but I never noticed it could be signs of depression and now I do. We would often have small fights here and there bcos of stress from work or stress from school. He has a lot to deal with financially and I know it’s driving him insane. Anyway, with the fights it’s bcos we would always text about his day and it would always be him or I taking our emotions out on eachother and the lack of miscommunication through text caused the fights. He has had a lot pour down on him last month with family problems and financial issues. He took a break with me and we would talk once every week or so bcos I wanted to see how he was doing. I know that was a mistake bcos now were broken up. He said it’s him & not me and that he’s super depressed and doesn’t know when he will ever be happy again. He said that everything added up and came together kn the wrong way and then person he is right now can’t handle a relationship. He kept apologizing for not knowing who he is right now and feels guilty bcos he can’t give me what I Want or need. I understand completely but I think I pushed him and caused more pressure when I asked If he sees us ever getting back together again in a few months from now and his response was “idk . isk if this is ever going to work”. I tried explaining that I’d sill like to keep the promise of being his partner and being there for him but more so of a friend atm. He just kept sayig “idk I need space and time to figure thigs out and explore life and trying to become normal”. I miss him so much. We haven’t talked since the breakup which happened a week ago today. I want to see how he’s doing but I want him to reach out to me first so he doesn’t think I’m needy. when we did have a talk bte I forgot to mention this, when we would talk after a fight it’s bcos he doesn’t think he can be the same person as he was when we first met (honey moon phase) and that he thinks he’s responsible to make me happy and feels guilty when I’m sad. I try to re assure I’m happy and fine on my own being and that I’m not expecting anything other than him to show me he loves me and cares about me. he also told me not to wait around and wants me to be happy even if it’s not with him and that he stil wants to be friends and make me happy… Idk what to do. Hes the best thing that’s happened bcos every other guy has treated me horribly. This guy has SHOWED me through actions and not just words how much he cares about me. I’m scared he’s never going to come back and I can’t seem to let go. We had so much planned together. 🙁 I just don’t know what to do other then let time takes it’s course

Me and my ex partner broke up a week ago. We have been together for 6 years then had few years break and since june 2011 we were seing eachother occasionally. Last year in october our relationship got to a different level. I was with him everyday we talked about the future we had plans we talked about babie. I felt that we are on a same level and we were happy. We had an argument last week and i packed my stuff and left. He wasnt expecting it. I regret cause we could have talked but he wouldnt call for days. I know i hurt him but he made me upset. I want him back i love him but he is so stubburn. He said he has made the right decision. We had few arguments but we talked about everything. I didnt expect this. He has been in my life for 10 years i want him back but dont know what to do.

I was with my boyfriend for six years. We got along unbelievable great. We had plans to get married and always talked about it and having children. Then one day, out of the blue, he was very angry with me and I could tell something was really wrong. I chose to ignore it and hope whatever it was would work itself out because I hadn’t done anything to make him angry. About a week later he said he needed to tell me something and that I should sit down for it. And then he dropped the bomb. He said he hadn’t loved me for two years and I wasn’t the person he wanted to spend his life with. I know this sounds cliché, but I really thought he was the love of my life. I am devastated. I tried for 4 weeks to convince him he had made a mistake and all he would say is “leave me alone”. I finally told him that although he has hurt me so bad, I will honor his decision. I haven’t texted or called him since. My heart is broken. Ignoring him hasn’t worked because that’s what he wanted me to do. He never did really tell me what went wrong but I guess he just stopped loving me and didn’t realize it for awhile. There’s nothing you can do when the man you love doesn’t return your love. Nothing. You will only make yourself miserable. I am so sad but I’m trying to accept it. I’ll probably never trust myself and my own feelings ever again, because I really never saw this coming.

You need to be really precise here, so something like “Change my calendar on 10th November. When you accept reality instead of avoiding it, you eliminate an enormous amount of tension and worry that is being felt by both you and your boyfriend. If your ex boyfriend perceives in your voice that you’re thriving as well as even better after the relationship ended, it will feel like a fast kick to their personality.

i have been going out with my best friend matthew for about a month now, and evreything was complements
evreyware…its sooo sad becuase i never saw it coming…………….(tears) it happend today im in 6th grade we are both 12 he was perfect!!!! we had evreything in commen i took evreything i had to keep myself from crying
wile reading the note he said the realationship was not working out…,it was in science in 6th period. i cried on the buss on the way home. he said he just wants to be friends.i felt like i was hit by a truck,stabed in the back
i have noooo idea why it has to be this way….why????…..but i still feel like i hate him but i still want him.