First of all, while you can use this time to look at yourself and where you are in your life, don’t do too much introspection. The truth behind why your boyfriend break up with you is that he had his own issues. You know what they say, “it’s not you… it’s me.”
If you’re going to work at trying to get your ex back, you are going want to keep a few things in mind.
- Don’t pester your ex – when your boyfriend breaks up with you, it means that you have less access to him. So don’t text him multiple times a day or call him a lot.
- It’s okay to flirt with other guys in his presence. It may even make him want you back more.
- When you do get back together for a “trial date” be cheerful and friendly but don’t pressure him for more than he can handle.
However, if you have a feeling in your gut that the relationship is over when your boyfriend breaks up with you, then you need to seriously consider moving on.
One of the first things you can do after your boyfriend breaks up is to sit down and write a long letter to him pouring out your heart. You can talk about the good times and bad. You can tell him what a jerk he is and call him all sorts of names. But, don’t mail the letter! Instead, take a candle out and burn it. This is one of the best ways to get closure after a boyfriend break up.
The next thing you need to do is do a property exchange. Give him back the t-shirt that you love to sleep in. Get the econ textbook you lent him. If there are things like toothbrushes that are too trivial to exchange, throw them away. Don’t have anything around that reminds you of him. If you have gifts that he gave you, box them up for the time being. If you have any money issues to resolve like debts to the other or a joint checking account, get them sorted out.
After you have completed the property exchange, agree that you won’t have any communication for 30 days. This may be hard if you are used to seeing each other on a daily basis, but after a boyfriend break up it is necessary to give yourself some space and distance.
It hurts a lot when a boyfriend breaks up with you. But it isn’t the end of your life. You can even look at it as an opportunity to get a fresh start and who knows, maybe even meet your true soul mate.
Of course, you shouldn’t jump to the conclusion that just because you’ve gone through a boyfriend break up that all of the doors are firmly shut. If you think you have a shot of winning him back and that’s something you want, you should by all means stay the course and not give up.
True love really can survive even a boyfriend break up. If you have had experience at winning your boyfriend back, please feel free to share by leaving a comment.